Dating with Pure Passion: More than Rules, More than Courtship, More than a Formula

Dating can be a complicated problem. Many of us think that there is a clear and precise way to go about it. The way to get a date, keep it, and continue growing a relationship....well, that takes skill. However, for those of us who have been in relationships before (or, for those of us who aren't, haven't and/or want to be), we may find that we're not getting anywhere. We just don't seem to know if this person is the right peson, or if this person is the one. This book meets you right where you are--especially if you are looking for real passion in your life. It begins with finding your one True passion--the Lord Jesus Christ--and making him first in life. Once you find that all you have is him, that all that you have is wrapped up in his love for you and your love for him, then and only then can you make your relationships 'work.' Rob Eager has been there. And he is fresh with honesty about what to look for in a relationship, who to date, warnings about who not to date or pursue a deep meaningful relationship with, and about sex and where its proper place is in the life of someone who is in love with Jesus first. I would recommend this book to anyone that is looking for the solution to failed relationships. I found it really helpful, especially as a woman looking for Mr. Right. His name is Jesus.

Rob Eager has really hit on something strong here; that a dating relationship will fully prosper only when each individual is FULLY satisfied in Jesus Christ first and foremost, above all else. Eager says it is only by totally understanding Christ's love and acceptance for ourselves, that we are able to strive to correctly and unselfishly love someone else in a dating situation.This book was referred to me during a very difficult time in my life when my 2 year dating relationship suddendely ended. It helped me understand and endure much of the heartache I lived through during that time. If you're going through a dating downfall and need clarity on what this dating thing is all about, read this book.I know that some Christian dating books can seem over the top and impractical, but Rob Eager gives very solid and down to earth principles of what dating is really about. I was also very impressed with how Biblicaly based his book is as he constantly drops in scripture throughout the book to back up his thoughts.Not only has this book re-tooled the way I view dating relationships, but it has encouraged my overall walk with Christ a great deal. I very highly recommend this book to anyone looking for an excellent, practical, Biblical and knowledgeable approach to dating in today's world.It's a must buy.

If there's one central theme running through this book, it's that for a relationship to be all it can be, you must first realize that no husband/wife union can be perfect or totally fulfilling. Our source of hope and joy should be through Christ. A loving marriage, though, is a wonderful gift from God and should be characterized by sacrificial love, forgiveness, strong character, etc., traits we develop through our relationship with Christ.As Eagar says in his conclusion, which perfectly sums up his main message, "..as Christ's love becomes your primary source of nourishment, you place yourself in the best position to enjoy dating and marriage. Rather than romance ruining your life, it offers the opportunity for His abundant love to overflow through you to another person. Romance can benefit you only when you do not depend on it for survival."I can't find any glaring weaknesses in this book. Eagar does an admirable job covering all the major components and holdups in relationships and offers plenty of examples, most helpfully those from his own marriage and even what he learned from a past relationship when his wife left him. I found the chapters on determining the best person to date and questions to consider before you get engaged to be especially helpful.

This is an outstanding book for anyone who is thinking of seriously dating. The key message is the nobody is perfect and people will eventually disappoint you, but God never will. So getting right with God first is key. But it also talks a lot about specific of what to look for in a person before you give your heart to them and what issues you should resolve before getting engaged. There are numerous Bible references. There are also study questions at the end of each chapter. I bought one of these for my girlfriend and the discussions we have had have been great for our relationship. I have also given away copies to friends who thought it was a great book and thanked me. I have also given copies to my adult aged kids. I think anyone who is over 16 would benefit from reading this book.

In Chapter 7 (The Bond of Passion), Rob connects the dots between sexual passion and the love of Christ.• God created you with the capacity for sexual passion so that you could comprehend Christ's passion for you. Your physical attraction to someone on earth represents Jesus' excitement toward you.• Jesus loves you more than just as a friend. You captivate Him. Furthermore, you experience a taste of His intimate love if you share sexual delight with someone in a marriage relationship.• The joy that a husband and wife express for each other portrays the delight and satisfaction that Christ feels about you.

This book is like no other Christian book on dating. It focuses more on living a godly life, rather than just dating for the sake of it. What I like about the author is the way he writes about his own personal experiences. Reading a book from a man's perspective is truly refreshing, it was a whole new revelation for me. In each chapter he states how dating couples should always put God first at every stage of their dating, in other words, their love for Christ must be top priority which means they can have a fulfilling relationship. I could go on and on about this book but I will end up writing my own if I did, lol.Please don't think for one second this is a how to book, no it is a book that helps single Christians to work towards maturity in Christ and to develop their love for him. When we are truly in love with Christ then loving the `one' will come easy. In other words, it is Dating with the passion for Christ at all times. This book is for both men and women alike as the author addresses both sexes in every chapter.I will highly recommend this book to anyone, for me this is probably one of the best books I have ever read on the dating. I have already written about it in my blog and will continue to recommend it to all singles I come across. A big thank you to the author for writing such an informative, uplifting, soul searching book.