7 Things He'll Never Tell You but You Need to Know

I have several of Dr. Lemans books, and have always found them to have sound advice. This book however, I did have some issues with that I felt needed to be addressed:Most importantly, the subject of biblical adultery needs some attention. Dr. Leman writes about how it is normal for men to look at other women and "enjoy the feminine form", and then leaves a STRONG impression that it is OK. For example, the way to handle your husband if he were to "turn his head in a restaurant to follow a young woman in a red miniskirt" is to go home and pull something red out of your closet. I am sorry Dr. Leman, but the red is not what was being looked at, it was what was under the red, and that is not something that all women can just pull out of the closet. To condone this behavior is to condone biblical adultery and create deep-seated insecurity in the relationship. Matthew 5:28Secondly, I must assume from this book that Dr. Leman does not take out the trash as his wife wishes and wears his underware for three days in a row [my husband says that is gross!] until his wife says to change them [he covers it in the book!]. This is not in itself a big deal, but he warns us not to talk to our friends about these complaints b/c it will hurt his ego, and says "Whenever you talk to your girlfriend or your sister or your mother or your husbands mother about your man and the goofy thing he did, you are violating your marital vow to be faithful. And that is dangerous." First off, if your man is only flubbing up every now and then and putting in every effort to be the man and father he is called to be, then I agree. However for many marriages with the women complaining, this is not the case, and to that I say: Take out the trash and she will not be able to complain to any one about you not doing it! ALSO - ISN'T ADULTERY "VIOLATING YOUR MARITAL VOW TO BE FAITHFUL"!!!!Dr Leman, I am dissapointed in this writing - I know that you know that to lust after another is adultery, and I am sure no man is lusting after a red skirt! Matthew 5:28Although these are major issues in a marriage, Dr. Leman does have much good advice in the first half of the book, that many wives could benefit from. Just don't go along with the last half!

Many of the other reviews were quite positive for this book. While I have enjoyed parts of it, overall I have felt like the book was just okay. The author makes men seem quite immature, which I don't think is exactly true. :) For this type of book, I preferred the book For Women Only. That author also wrote For Men Only, so that one can see both sides to the situation. In 7 Things it seems like he doesn't even acknowledge the other side of the relationship, which is important and could be addressed at least in another book. Also, there are parts of this book that seem more aimed at men as opposed to the women reading. If you don't read much, then I wouldn't recommend this book.

I recently ordered from Amazon and read 7 Things He'll Never Tell You, but You Need To Know and found it informative yet very quick, simple and entertaining reading. Book arrived super quick.It is written by a Christian man but the info found between the pages can really help any relationship and who should resist that? Wish I had read this many years ago. All marriages and those contemplating marriage need to give their relationship the best chance possible to succeed and read this book so that one can meet the needs of the "other"!

We all get that men and women are to be treated equally. But we know we truly are different. Responses. Expectations. Habits. Perceptions. Leman puts the things our guys want us to know in terms we get - with a little humor here and there and some straight talk that may hit a reader wrong, at first. Then we gain a better understanding of why guys think the way they do and talk the way they talk. We can learn more about how to 'get him' more easily without having to badger for answers. Pick this one up.

makes it difficult to take this book seriously. After seeing the author interviewed on television, I bought the book. I had read The Birth Order Book years prior. One of the reviewers wrote, "a little sexist." A little sexist? He uses archaic and immature language throughout his book such as, "hubby," "guy," and I can't count the times he referred to women's "crabby time of the month." I endured reading the book trying to glean some information anyway. I came away with only a few new ideas. He refers to "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Do yourself a favor and read that one instead. Leman has quite a dossier and many of his book titles sound interesting. However, I'm hesitant to read more of his work and can't imagine people paying to see him speak in the 21st century. Sorry. :{

I really appreciated this book. I have been married for 8 years and we have 2 little kids who take up all my time and attention. I read this book to try to get some of the focus on my husband and not ignore his needs. He is very supportive of me being home and focusing so much on the kids, but I realized I needed to focus on him too. This book said what my husband doesn't come out and tell me what he needs or wants, but I know are truly important to him and our marriage! I highly recommend it.

Men and women are so different..This book will show you just how much we are.It will also arm women with the understanding of what takes places in a man's thoughts. Does he really care about you? or is he just leading you on? When he says, "I'll phone you, will he? or is it a put off?This is a great book to learn what you don't know, or what you try to deny knowing.It opens your eyes to the true thoughts and feelings of a man.So, pay attention and learn.

I enjoyed most of 7 Things He'll Never Tell You. Dr. Leman was helpful in explaining the strange workings of the male mind. His anecdotes are engaging and the book is entertaining, sensible, and hard to put down. Unfortunately Dr. Leman flatters women too much, but his advice is practical and helpful.

This was appalling. I had been recommended this author as I often read marriage books. I can tell you I won’t be reading another one of his books. I read out paragraphs to my mum and friends and they were all as equally horrified. It’s sexist, mysoganistic and written like a Good Wife’s Guide from 1689. Even my fiancée and father were surprised by the content and “advice” given to women in this book! Honestly do not buy the book. If you want a marriage book then there are literally hundreds of 21st century appropriate options. I highly recommend Gary Chapman as an alternative.

Not helpful if you live in the 21th century

Für die Leute, die sowieso alle möglichen Artikel und Bücher über Ehe lesen nicht unbedingt viel Neues, aber Dr. Leman versteht es, Sachen auf den Punkt zu bringen! Gerade in christlichen Kreisen tut dies Not! Auch und gerade hinsichtlich Sexualität:)...

reat book