Giving The Love That Heals

Ive read a lot of important books about child development to try and understand the process of maturation and what can go wrong because if It can get back on track I want to know how. This book is very easy to read and understand and the audio is even easier. Yet the material is deep and of utmost importance to the individual child,the growing and healing caregivers and society as it becomes from our patterns and believes. Harville puts it altogether and gives explicit help on exactly what the child justly needs at each stage of development, how to be neither a maximizer or a minimizer in our parenting style and how to give the child the message that he is OK above all. read several times to absorb the impact of what is crucial to understand about the childs needs, how the child is not us but a separate individual and how to bring your child through to adult maturity with the capacity to be naturally whole and capable of giving and receiving love. This one is for a grandparent too because there is much we can do to heal our grandchildren of the wounds that are bound to occur and help them proceed on to the next developmental stage unimpeded. Teens too will benefit from the parents understanding and the change that can occur in the parent themselves from stretching to meet the all important needs of the teen around sexuality and bonding with the opposite sex. This book will rock our cultural assumptions and set things right.

I recommend this book to every parent who mentions struggling with their child(ren). It goes beyond being just a parenting-technique book to helping the parent identify their own issues stemming from childhood. Through that process, the parent learns where his/her weaknesses or blocks are, so that they have the clarity to discern what is actually occurring with the child, rather than being clouded by his/her perceptions. From there, the parent can use the techniques taught in the book to help the child move successfully through the developmental phase that is causing frustration.My favorite parts of the book are the detailed explanations of the chronological stages of a child's life; the explanation and examples of symbiotic parenting; and the explanation of how we learn to parent how our parents parented us, which is how they were parented, ad infinitum, with the assurance that we can break the cycle of mistakes.This is a book for parents who are committed to helping their children navigate through life, even though it requires some self-discovery. It is not a book for a parent who wants a quick solution, because this requires commitment. For me, the healing that resulted in myself, my child and our relationship went far beyond what I was asking for, making the commitment a bargain at any price.

I'm on page 52 of Giving The Love That heals, and I can't read it fast enough. In fact, I'm reading and highlighting so fast that I plan on going through the book a second time once I complete it.I can't get enough of this book. It's everything I need as an emotionally wounded mother of a 2 1/2 year old. Like I said, I'm on page 52 and my life has already changed. I cannot wait to finish this book because I can't wait to finally begin healing and to start loving in a healing way.This is a book I will definitely purchase and hand out as gifts, because anyone with a less than perfect childhood who is becoming or is a parent NEEDS this book. Please do yourself and your child a favor and heal your wounds, because hurt people, hurt other people. And unless you make a conscious decision to start parenting consciously, like the book demonstrates, you will never break the wounding cycle.

In my journey I have learned what a great responsibility parenting is. Some parents are broken and they in turn teach that to their children. We then wonder why later on in life? This book helps you answer some of those questions. If you are a parent this will teach you that your child's behavior that annoys you may be something you haven't dealt with in your life! This was a refreshing book to read. I have this in my library for keeps. Not putting your head in the sand won't help you grow and become the person you were meant to be. Face the hard stuff and questions and grow.This book gives you examples and stories....

Fabulous book! I would recommend it to any parent who wishes to raise his/her offspring(s) as a whole person. It has made me realize my shortcomings and mainly pain within that I am working on overcoming and healing. It teaches you how to speak with respect to any human being regardless of her/his age, including an infant or a toddler who is just learning to speak.

There’s a reason that it’s a bestseller. I’ve learned so much about me, my husband, and my daughter and I’m not even halfway through. It’s a must read for all parents to break the wounding cycle in both marriage and parenting!

Stop reading reviews. If you have any reason whatsoever, which you must because you are reading reviews about a couple's therapy book, then stop wasting time and buy this. Even better, buy it, read it and live it. This helps overcome conflict in any relationship. If you read it and like it, I can also strongly recommend the authors workshops.

For any of us who think it's too late to repair our relationships- it is not. I am encouraged by the response to the small changes I've made in the way I interact with those I love.

Great book with lots of knowledge!

Excellent book for all parents to resd.

Our society needs alot of time to heal and this book at least get people on the right track and it reads quickly. A good referenfe book.

If you care about who you are and why you are - buy the book and read it.