Resurrection After Rape: A Guide to Transforming from Victim to Survivor Paperback – Illustrated, 15 Feb. 2013

This is amongst the best ever book on how to heal and thrive after rape. I have read many and this one does the job alone. The case studies are on adult survivors of child abuse but it's relevant to all victims as it applies to all survivors but focuses on the gender of survivors being females and rapists males. It debunks and challenged myths, it explains that becoming "promiscuous" after the trauma is a sexual grieving progress and repercussion not an indication of character and behaviour or minimises the trauma. It identifies also the other side of the coin which is sexual anorexia. It is sensitive, none judgemental, resonates with lots of survivors and stories and extracts are taken by survivors. It challenges feelings of guilt and shame in an insightful manner and also tackles the feelings of feeling dirty in a way that heals and changes perspectives reminding us that the bodies cells rejuvenate and are replaced constantly so that our bodies are not the same ones when we were abused. That we have the same value just as a note would even if folded or scrunched in our wallets. It suggests exercises such as making a collage, to redefine sexuality and separate abuse from sex. It covers additions, the importance of forgiveness but does not suggest forgiving abuser or encourages it and speaks of self forgiveness from own blame. It challenges detrimental social messages and attitudes such as blame the victim and talks about rape culture and how rapists are socially conditioned not psychologically disturbed. It outlines the kinds of rapists in general but never makes generalisation on neither abusers or survivors. It explains the different stages of healing from victim, survivor to thriver and also three modes: the victim, the warrior and the wise one and how we can work with all three of these modes. It also recognises that negative sexual experiences can be harmful and need healing even when rape or assault isn't part of it. It's a great healing guide and book and one that will transform your life. It is the very heaven sent book you need to help with recovery, be understood in ways that few can understand and give you that validation, that support and understanding and knowledge and resonate deep within your heart and soul, restoring your faith in humanity and knowing that someone does understand and that you are not alone or misunderstood. Highly recommend it. It's a must for survivors, those that want to help them and understand the subject and for professionals too. Simple to read and also a free PDF is available on the site. Thank you to the author for such humanity and transforming many lives. Worth every penny because it will last a lifetime and is invaluable. Don't hesitate to buy it.

I was looking for a book to help me be better able to help my best friend recover from rape as i was becoming increasingly aware I lacked understanding of the stages people go through after rape and the best things they and others can do to recover.The book has already proved invaluable as i was able to help talk her through a panic attack that she was suffering after a counseling session. I'm also able to avoid making mistakes such as taking control and making her paranoid through increasing her personal security.The book is invaluable for anyone recovering from rape (and is best used in conjunction with counseling) and is of great use for anyone supporting another through it. Its a bloody horrible thing to see someone go through and the fact that this helps the recovery makes it worth its weight in gold. The book is a "workbook", which encourages you to journal and which is filled with facts and not platitudes. Its hard work to go through (I was moved to tears a number of times), but its effective and that is what you need.The book is available in ebook format on the Ressurection after Rape website for free, however, if you can afford it, buy it, because its that important a book. If you cant afford it or need it fast, then it is there.Good luck with your recovery or helping another to recover. It is possible, sadly, many, many have done it before. do not underestimate the effect it has on yourself or a loved one. It is incredibly mentally damaging.

I bought this for someone very close who had been suffering, they were too scared to open up to a counselor. I bought them this as a self help book and it has worked to some extent. I'd recommend this to anyone in the same situation. The book covers case studys and how to deal with guilt and feelings.

I have read many books on healing from rape / sexual abuse. This book stands out as being the best one by far. Don't let the title 'resurrection' put you off if you do not have a christian faith - this is not a 'christian faith' style book, but a factual and extremely helpful manual. It debunks many of the common rape myths, and provides a lot of research and true stories that will help you to heal. It is also linked to an excellent online forum. There are actual things for you to do on your healing journey. It is inspirational and practical and should be the first book every survivor reads. It offers hope, but does not balk at the very real struggles that there can be on the way to wholeness.

I am overwhelmed by the compassion and understanding viewpoint of this books author who obviously knows his stuff.It is quite a difficult book to work through given the nature of its subject matter.Iimmediately felt supported in some way and was relieved that finally someone was coming from the right angle.Iwas also overwhelmed at certain portions of the book that had a very freeing kind of affect on my soul.Iam only part of the way through this book but i would recommend it for anyone requireing support .

Outstanding. If you’re trying to deal with the aftermath of rape, this book will soothe your pain. It matters not if the rape was recent or a long-ago traumatic event. Stay strong; you are not alone 🙏🏻

Really well written, informative, useful and very valued in my recovery.