Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders

I read three books on this subject and this was the best in my opinion. Best for beginners anyhow. I read the three books to figure out which one would be best for my wife to read. I don't think she's familiar with this topic and I don't want to scare her off. This book was just right. It does well explaining topics and themes without going overboard. I didn't want to give my wife a book that would make her think she has to put on this whole theatrical production like some other books might make you think. This is not about leather and whips and chains. It would be a solid foundation to build upon for those couples looking to take it further. But that's not the purpose here. So if your wife is pretty vanilla and you're going to tell her about Chastity for the first time this would be your best book. It will explain things without scaring her away. And if she's not into it after reading the book you don't have to feel like perv for suggesting it. I do recommend this book.

I found this book to be written in a very insightful and wise manner. The writer has a lot of experience on the subject and writes very thoughtfully about it, providing guidance and best practices for navigating complex situations and how to safely adopt the lifestyle. It's not written in a cheap, dirty manner, rather she approaches the subject in a mature and really readable style that makes understanding it easy and exciting. I'd recommend this book to couples interested in pursuing a more exciting romantic life or adding some spice to your relationship. This will definitely do it.

The paradox in male chastity, similar to the cuckold fantasy, is that its value is primarily based on a male orchestrated desire and then his submission to his female led fantasy; by his willing consent. "Male Chastity" is informative in that what a woman wants to hear is coaxed confidently from her husband. When the submissive male is dominated by his wife, possessiveness is no longer his weapon in masking his obvious weakness. He is given strength having been told to do what he secretly always wanted. His relief and joyous pleasure comes from hearing his taboo comforted by the confident words of his most feared creature; his wife. This book dissects the male libido and its most feared motivator, his sexual release. Once under her control the decisions are now hers to make and instantly recognized as his to earn. Nothing is taken for granted in male surrender as in submission all masculine weakness is put in storage. The key, held by the woman in the relationship, is her tool to use and her husbands bailiwick to hope to deserve. Consent is marketed as the golden rule as a man unable to accept the incarceration of his penis refuses all female dominance. That loss becomes apparent when his freedom rings the former bell of sexual fear; his weakness. The poetic justice is that in being dominated by a woman he desires, he finds the truth about his insecurity to be exposed and no longer feared. Man can only take what he thinks he wants. Getting it begins the erosive nature of devaluation. The cage knows its prisoner best. The key holder holds her husbands freedom safe from himself, perpetually reminding him of her strength in charge if his release. Male desire has to be dependent on the will of female power for with out it, her sexual gift is no longer her gift but stolen desire doomed to decay bore him to death. Lock him up......and see freedom for the first time.

This is the best book on introducing male chastity to you wife or girlfriend. This book doesn’t have any of the hard core sisification, cross dressing cuckolding etc. that can and will turn of your better half to your fantasy. This book is a great introduction to male chastity written in a clear way explaining the lifestyle/fantasy in a easy to read, non threatening way, I really loved reading this book and I highly recommend this to any male to give to their wife ( or wife who wants to get her husband interested)

If you are totally new to the world of male chastity (or any kinkey play for that matter) and you and your partner are toying with whether or not it is for you and helpful hints as you dip your toe into this kind of play, the book is great. It is a good read, not too long, and has enough information to help you make an informed decision. What it doesn't have is any real information on what happens after you choose to go on this journey. I am new to the world of chastity but there was little information I found useful. It felt much more like reading an encouraging letter to give it a try rather than a real guide for keyholders.

I've read quite a few books about female domination, chastity and other related topics, trying to find the right one(s) for my girlfriend to understand my fantasies. This one is by far the best, because it puts things in non-vulgar terms, delves into a new subject for her in a non-threatening way and is presented in way that a woman can relate to. In other words, many books on subjects like this are just too over-the-top and may be a little too much for a woman to read without feeling truly perverse. Lucy Fairbourne explains male chastity in a way that will actually appeal to a woman reader and leave her with a true understanding of her man's desire and how to do it. This is the perfect book to give a women you truly want to understand your desires for male chastity, because it presents everything from a balanced, reasonable perspective. Moreover, if you truly want your lady to consider putting you in chastity, this is the book to get.

Compliments to Lucy Fairbourne for a neatly-written book. I found in it not one vulgar word or suggestion of obscene activity. This book unlike many is presentable to virtuous wives such as mine. A while ago when recovering from two medical ailments (one nearly fatal) while in treatment for a third that is still not resolved, I proposed moving toward wife-rule as a way to spark up our marriage. She was puzzled at first, then slow to begin, but in time took up reaching me with one hand, or sometimes by mouth. What pain and glory and fun altogether! Also the other day she tapped up my big bare ass with a hefty wooden spoon. There's better to come, no doubt! Ideally our married routine will soon go like this. Dear Wife summons me to be chastened. I step forward in obedience. Then I get put to work around the house, bossed, scolded, laughed at, and at times let out just to be dealt a stupendous ruined orgasm! This lifestyle will take time to achieve. If offered it now I would step in at once. Thanks to Ms. Fairbourne for the good that her book has no doubt done and will do more of.

This book was represented as a companion to “Locked-In Love”. I’m pretty upset with this, as it’s actually a how-to manual for women on weaponizing sex. That’s the polar opposite of the message of “Locked-In Love”! If you’re looking for a book about how to become more self aware and improve your relationship, get Key Barrett’s book, but leave this one on the shelf.

Really well written book with lots of sensible explanations for wives and girlfriends who are not sure about the idea. I read it and then plucked up the courage to ask my wife to read it. She had locked me before but that was it, this time she enjoyed teasing me, she wore her key round her neck to yoga and told me that if they know well then they will know. The idea of strangers knowing blew me away. We had the best day and night, thanks book.

Great information , was a help with us getting started.

- Sehr gute Heranführung an das Thema Keuschhaltung - Sachliche und realistische Beschreibung und Anleitung - Sehr zu empfehlen für Frauen, die sich für das Thema der männlichen Keuschhaltung interessieren oder durch Ihren Partner darauf aufmerksam gemacht wurden. Hierbei handelt es nicht um erotische Geschichten oder Kopfkino sondern um sinnvolle Tipps zum Thema. Wer sich für das Thema Keuschhaltung interessiert kommt an diesem Buch nicht vorbei. Im Gegensatz zu Anleitungen und Texten im Internet geht es hierbei wirklich um die Keuschhaltung und nicht um erotische Geschichten. Das Buch gibt es auch auf deutsch. Die deutsche Version ist leider sehr schlecht übersetzt, daher empfehle ich sehr die englische Originalversion.

Interesting but failed to really explore the methods available to key holders to punish their submissive.

An easy and quick read. It's a good book as an introduction for people who are asked to be a potential keyholder, as it's not very kinky oriented but mostly informative with a good emphasis on consent and exploring on your terms and pace. Maybe that's why it's also quite monogamy assuming, so don't expect anything on chastity play within nonmonogamous dynamics like polyamory or kinks like cuckolding. Nevertheless, still a very good place to start exploring the topic to see if it's anything for you and how to try it mindfully, without raising expectations to indulge beyond anything you are not comfortable with or fear of no returning. Do note that it is very heterosexually focussed with gender binary thinking. I would have loved to have a bit more feminist theory in there as well, however, it does give some examples of patriarchal dynamics and behaviors and how chastity can serve as a pragmatic feminist tool to rebalance those.