The Rational Male

This book blew my mind because these were mindblowing concepts about women. I honestly never heard of these concepts and was in denial. Then I researched several forums and also talked to men and women outside and confirmed that this was true. Keep in mind that Rollo is writing these concepts from a over a decade of debate, critical inquiry, and refinement. He has refined and molded all the rebuttals and disagreements and drew out conclusions from his observation. He is drawing from thousands of men's experiences with women all across the world. I was disgusted by the concept of the female hypergamy at first. I couldn't believe that female nature is like this. I grew up in a feminine environment where I was taught that boys and girls were equal and that we think the same. Men and women think very differently I realized. These concepts in the book opened my eyes and I couldn't believe it. This suprisingly made me more compassionate towards women in real life and did not make me hate them. This allowed me to see the power that men actually hold and it is a waste of time simping for women. It's better to focus on your purpose as a man and become the right person for the right woman. Simping for woman is a waste of time because they have 2 or 3 options ready even if they give you a chance. This book motivated me to be a better man and to focus on growth and development as opposed to wasting my time chasing after women. I found that my interactions with women have vastly improved in real life. I don't find myself wasting time simping over women. This ironically causes women to give respect to me more which is fascinating. It seems like women give respect to men that are more aligned with their purpose and understand the flaws of female nature. It's kind of a miracle and it's making my day to day life more enjoyable. Beware that some women and beta men will vehemently deny the concepts in this book...but deep down inside they know that it is true. Must read book for all men.

This book is worth its weight in gold. The book reveals the true state of gender relations and it's far from what socialization teaches. I personally think that this is essential reading for every man. I purchased this book out of curiosity since it was recommended in another awesome book: "The Manosphere" by Ian Ironwood. I hate to be so grandiose but it must be said: the information in this book completely shut me down. What I mean is that everything I knew about women, or should I say, thought I knew about women, was debunked. If you ever sat and wondered why women are as they are; if you ever wondered where you go wrong with women, you find the answers herein. Be warned that you must be able to handle the truth. If this book offends you in any way, then it's clear you need it. I cursed this author under my breath for writing "such lies" about the nature of women. I was truly angry and even considered deleting this book from my Kindle. I went through many of the seven phases of grief during and after reading this book. I even tried to act as if women are the innocent beings as socialization tells us, but could not help but see the truth every single day. Everything I'd been told by family members, the media, school and any other forms of socialization is wrong and I took that personally. In order to describe what I mean by "shut down" mentioned above, I was like a computer with no operating system. I had no clue where to begin now that I know the truth; my daily question being "What now?" My anger towards feminism soared to an all-time high for making a complete fool of me for my entire life. The book clearly warns that once you learn and witness the truth about women and society, there is no going back. If you do so, as I tried, you KNOW you're living a lie. If you ignore the advice in this book while knowing deep down in your soul it's true, you're in a pathetic state of denial. It is utter self-destruction to continue with the beliefs that socialization and feminism would have us accept. If you're a man who believes in all the conventions preached by feminism, then you desperately need this book. Read this book and stop being depressed. Read it and accept the fact that you, as a man, are valuable to society and should not accept the role of a low life servant for the feminist establishment. You have the potential to be a powerful man and a devastating enemy to man-hating ideals and it is this that feminism expertly hides with believable and pretty lies. Read it and see how feminism cleverly uses our innate behavior for its sole benefit. For example: Our protector instinct is used to tear down other men for standing up to a woman even when she's clearly wrong. Read it, cry about it, throw a tantrum, say a thousand "hale Mary's", whatever, but please don't deny the truth contained in this book.

An absolute must read (multiple times) for any male in today’s world. You can pretty much treat this as a Bible...yes, it has that much relevance. Buy it, read it (many times), absorb it, learn it, embrace it and it’ll become a part of your DNA. This book saved my life, figuratively and literally. I’ve also bought this for a few guys who I consider to be brothers. I will recommend, though, that if you do that, when you give it to that person, do it from the heart and DO NOT pressure them to read it. Make sure they understand that it’s theirs to keep and for them to feel free to read it in their own time, and NEVER, and I mean NEVER ask them if they’ve been reading it. They will, in their own time, let you know that they’ve started reading it. It’s happened like that every single time with me. You can’t RP anyone. They have to be in a position to where they’re seeking the answers on their own accord. Mothers, especially single mothers, buy this for your son[s]. I would, though, recommend you to wait until they’re at least 12 or 13-years old or when they start talking about girls, which ever comes first. Read it with them. Put your personal feelings and biases aside and do it with an open mind. I only wish I had this taught to me when I was a young teen. It would have not only changed so many things in my life for the better, but it would’ve saved a lot of heartbreak, as well as some potentially disastrous situations. Fathers, not only do you need this, but your sons do as well. Brothers, you need this as well, and sons, give this to your fathers. I cannot stress how important it is for men, especially now-a-days to read this book, understand it, embrace it, and make it a part of your soul for your survival and well-being, both mental and physical. I know I’ve been very long winded;however, I only wish to convey how imperative it is that men make this book a part of their lives. Thanks for reading and best of luck and love to you and yours in the future.

Read at your own risk. Outside of, perhaps, religious texts, there isn't a book more life-changing than this for men. Have you ever wondered why women claim to like "nice guys," but reject you for being one, and then date a jerk? Do you wonder why those girls in high school friend-zoned you or, despite witnessing millions of acts of 'friend-zoning,' women, universally, believe it doesn't exist? Then, complain about "players?" (men who essentially friend zone them?) Have you pondered how so many women say, "I can't find a good guy," while you and 100, lonely "good guys" follow her around? How about why women treat you completely different when you're playing in your indie-rock band than they do at your day job? Or, why women say one thing and mean another? Or, why the women you want ignore you, and the ones' you don't obsess over you? Or, why some men who approach women are well-recieved, while others are "creeps," "sexual harrassers," or worse? Does it seem like you live on a different planet and speak a different language than women? Do you feel like you constantly do everything you can to please your girlfriend/wife, listen to her requests and she still seems cold, distant and refuses intimacy? Have you been left zeroed-out or baffled as to how your ex-girlfriend/wife moved on so quickly after your break up? Do women seem capable of heartless acts? Do you ever wonder why women seem so naive to male experience? Does it seem like the world is completely stacked against men but yet you constantly hear about male entitlement, patriarchal oppression, how awful men are.. meanwhile, you and all your friends love women and just want girlfriends? Despite all of the craziness, do you adore women and want them in your life? Do you want to understand women and improve yourself to be the best man you can be so that you will have more control over your future relationships with women? This book is a lot of different things. It's full of a kick-you-in-the butt, cold, hard truths about intersexual dynamics and how relationships between men and women can be understood far better through the lens of biology, genetics and evolutionary psychology. Why do so many men, universally, fear the rejection of one woman in a World with 4 billion of them? Could it be because evolutionarily-speaking your hindbrain still functions as it did in the hunter-gatherer past, when the rejection of one woman could mean social outcasting from your tribe? If it's not, why is this a universal experience for men across the globe? Why do billions of men who never communicated, prior the internet, share the exact same experiences with women? Did the women all meet up and decide to "friend zone" guys and date jerks, or is there a common biological reason for this? The reality is, while all women are "different," in an intrinsic sense, they all share biological attraction cues, much like all men like physical characteristics, you may be naive to. Learn them. This book will teach you: The first step to understanding and doing better with women (and all areas in your life) is understanding the reality of how women are, act, think, feel and why. It is tossing out the false narrrative and belief that men and women are exactly the same biologically that is constantly pushed today. It is understanding that "equal" does not mean "the same." The downsides: If you google this book or the 'red pill' you will find lies being propogated to make it out to be sexist, mysognistic or part of some 'mens rights activist' club. All of these claims are false and you will find out, in the book, why they exist and are prevelant, in order to suppress the information inside. Women don't actually want men to know their secrets, that's why they told you to be a "nice guy." However, this book is not sexist or anti-woman at all. In reality, it is about understanding women, loving and putting yourself first so you can be the man women actually want to be with. It is not a "cheat sheet," "pick up guide," "road map," "self help" book or "dating coach manifesto." You will have to take the information inside and choose your own path. Most importantly, once you read this book, you will never be able to go back to the disolusioned person you were prior. Even if you try, you will notice the truths inside this book everywhere you go, especially in the actions of women in your life. You may also experience a period of time where you feel like you're the only person on Earth who witnessed an alien landing and you want to tell everyone about it only to find no one believes you even though you have proof and photos. The truth will become so clear to you that the people around you may seem like robots, plugged into the matrix, unable to hear you. This can be frustrating. Especially when you just want to help fellow men avoid the pitfalls of relationships that are now completely obvious to you. However, hopefully, you'll eventually let that go and use the information to better your own life, help those who will listen, and build on your own success with intersexual dynamics, with or without them. Lastly, the author, Rollo, was originally (and still is) a blogger. This book is a collection of essays and, thus, doesn't follow a very linear structure. There is some lingo and acronyms, used in the online community, you may need to brush up on, like "AFC" = Average frustrated chump. I think a future re-release of this book with a term-glossary would do wonders in helping turn more people onto the information. Don't be afraid. Change your life, gentleman.

If you are interested in this book, you are probably a man who has taken the metaphorical "red pill" - that is to say, you are questioning the values and assumptions, particularly about sex and gender, that have no doubt guided you to some disastrous point in your life and relationships - and are looking to deepen your knowledge about what to do at this point in your personal crisis. The good news is that this book will be a great help to you. I have now read a number of books on this topic, and this is one of the few that is worth reading (I hate the self-help genre, so any book of this kind that I don't throw down in disgust must be doing something right). Its greatest strength is the mindset of the author: Tomassi is direct, practical, honest, and you never feel as though his ideas are just a way of selling you some sleazy product or "secret" formula. The best insights he has come from a) his understanding that human desire, both male and female, is inherently paradoxical, a topic that often requires him to strip away the misdirections and social conditioning that conceal that paradox and b) his emphasis on practical, rational strategies for self-improvement. I don't agree with everything he says, but "red pill" newbies will be dazzled by the various pearls of wisdom on offer here. I do, however, have some caveats and qualifications. First, be aware that this is not really a "book": Tomassi writes a popular and long-running blog, and much of the content for this "book" is recycled, verbatim, from his online posts. While there has been some (minor) attempt to organize this material into a coherent text, it still reads very much like a collection of blog posts that have been loosely sewn together. In my opinion they should have been a bit more honest and marketed/presented it as such. Second, although Tomassi mentions talking to his editor at one point, and in another chapter weeds out one woman as being unsuitable for attraction due to her atrocious writing skills, his own book is riddled with basic writing mistakes. Tomassi doesn't know the difference between "compliment" and "complement" (he always uses the latter, while meaning the former), for example, and the book contains a litany of errors in which "who's" and "whose," "your" and "you're," "its" and "it's" errors sit alongside run-on sentences and various malapropisms. A few errors might be understandable, but the cumulative effect of so much bad writing really drags down the effect of the book. Maybe it's time to make that editor do some work. Third, will authors in this genre PLEASE rely on something other than just simplistic evolutionary psychology to explain human sexual behavior?! It is such flawed assumption that cultural and social structures don't have a powerful influence on human behavior as well. Just look at Tomassi's constant references to the SMV (Sexual Market Value) of men and women, an idea that, while building on evolutionary competitiveness, is also clearly shaped by the rise of capitalism, a social condition that is historical rather than natural. The prehistoric analogies in the book are, as a result, laughable: "The earliest form of proto-Game would’ve been a sexual quid pro quo. Can’t figure out how to seduce that hot, hunter-gatherer woman in the tribe? Save her ass from being torn limb from limb by a saber tooth tiger and she’ll reciprocate her gratitude with open legs." (p.183). Nonsense. Tribal sexual structures were rigid and involuntary, meaning that men and women rarely had the ability to choose whom they married or had sex with, a condition that defines much of human history. What has changed since the 1600s is a sexual revolution, described brilliantly in Faramerz Dabhoila's The Origins of Sex, which traces how modern society has been revolutionized from a culture of necessity to the one of choice that has come to define modern Game. To sum up, then, this "book"/collection of blog posts is a great source if you are looking for practical ways to improve yourself and learn some strategies for improving your relationships with women. You should read it alongside other classics as Neil Strauss's cautionary memoir The Game, Mystery's practical guide to picking up women, The Mystery Method, Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy, and Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction. It is a book to make you a more rational male - although a truly rational male would surely next dig into some social history, particularly with regard to sexuality, and learn the basics of spelling and punctuation (all while spinning some "plates," of course).

This is a book every man should read, not because it offers an immediate solution or clear answer to social and relational turmoil, it offers a unique perspective that is meant to be analyzed that'll ultimately lead to deep introspective reflection of one's self. People who claimed to have read the book and say that if offers horrible relationship advice or promotes unhealthy relationships clearly failed at identifying the purpose of the text: you are the most important person in your life and you should build your foundation around yourself, not women. It advocates self-improvement and psychological growth, as well as insights on intergender relationships, marriage, and the thought processes of the opposite sex. As with any piece of text, you shouldn't take it solely at face value, criticise and processes it through your own lense and come to a conclusion that settles with you. I learned to value myself and to pursue more prominent aspects of life for my own edification; something that I will not compromise for simple companionship or "the one." Tomassi uses relatable examples then dissects particular instances and break them down into easily observable lines of thought which allowed me to understand them wholly. I definitely got something out of reading it and it's made me more confident, more successful, and helped me earned more respect from my fellow peers and women. On a side note: I did get the Kindle version of the book and it did have a few grammatical and spelling errors, but I've seen much worse. Aside from the odd error, the Kindle version is very readable.

This book was enthusiastically recommended to me by my cousin. I loved it and I’ll certainly be buying Tomasi’s two subsequent books. I have been riveted by reading The Rational Male and it made me feel immensely validated as a man. I wish this were available for me to read when I was 18, but better late than never. Nonetheless, it could have made a real positive difference with the sequence of events in my adult life between dating, fornicating, marriage and divorce. This book is a collection of blog posts from Rollo’s website under the same name. Some are shorter than others, but most of them are a pleasure to read because of Rollo’s unique way of expressing himself. These essays convey valuable insight pertaining to a myriad of topics like feminism, masculinity, sex, and dating women to name a few. Please read the negative reviews to understand that there’s a common beta(AFC) theme present in so many of them. The negative reviews are hilariously and sadly relevant to this book. It’s humorously convenient how the offense taken by many of the low review AFCs are indeed men who can’t stomach the enlightening perspectives that Rollo is waking men up to. It’s fascinating to see how many of those same negative reviews dismiss this book as merely misogynistic which it is definitely not. To say such a thing is to be a pie in the face of truth. These men demonstrate the unrelenting feminine schema that has infected them(us). The more these AFCs doth protest, the more they substantiate the remarkable reality of these things. This is the whole point of reading the book! To wake up from your feminine imposed slumber! It’s to inform yourself of these uncomfortable truths! Ideally, I think that men and women are not meant to be, nor should they be pitted against one another, but instead should exist to compliment one another in a state of beautiful harmony. So, read the negative reviews to see how AFC men paradoxically whine and simultaneously love those oppressive feminine chains! Why would I want to live in a paradox of contradictory messages? Knowing that I'm "not crazy" is like throwing a ton of burden off of my shoulders. Why wouldn't I want to alleviate such stress? This book was WELL worth the money spent on it. This is an excellent value for the expenditure versus the time reading it. You must have a truly open mind for these essays though. No wonder the "red pill" is oft referred to as a Matrix metaphor, because short of amnesia, brain damage or Alzheimers, you can't go back to not knowing once you learn something, and these are heavy ideas to digest. If you’re not comfortable with introspection and being honest about society, this book probably isn’t for you. However, if you want to grow to be a better man, then you may have just stumbled upon something truly great for you. Don’t read it if you don’t want to change. Just one simple gripe, there are many editing issues and typos in this book. Considering the value of the content, I think a revision should include a substantial list of corrections.

This book develops a system of thought for understanding the ancient struggle and uneasy alliance between men and women and how it brings us to the present day. The ideas in this book are rooted in evolution psychology, a keen observation of social norms and behaviors, and the collective experience of the author and many other men connecting the dots to understand women. Rollo takes these starting points and develops deeper insights into what is essentially an evolutionary arms race between men and women, fought on a social, cultural, political, biological and sexual level. The sexual economics of reproduction (eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap) dictates that women have an upper hand in this race, and men need a leg up in the Game if we are to perform and survive. There is always another layer of this onion to peel back and Rollo does so with intense clarity. On top of this Rollo goes into great detail on the common rationalizations men use to justify their lack of success with women, and how the common man's approach to women may seem logical but is in fact completely misguided. He also details women's approach to sexual selection and how our entire social structure as a society is meant to facilitate the female strategy at the expense of men. He then asks men to change the way they think about these problems, as well as how they think about themselves, to increase their chances of success and happiness in a sociosexual system that is at odds with them. Rollo goes out of his way to recognize that the ideas he presents may be offensive to some readers, but I for one had no problem with them and they in fact confirmed and clarified my own experiences with women, but condensed it all down to a coherent whole. Other reviewers have commented on Rollo's writing style, which is a bit heavy on the $10 words, and I did find myself wanting to correct his grammar at times. However I refused to allow that to distract me from the gravity of his ideas and conclusions. Besides, as I continued reading I acquired a taste for his writing style, there is an art to it which I think some simply don't appreciate. While I'm not quite ready to classify the ideas Rollo puts forward as a validated scientific theory on gender dynamics, I find it to be a damn compelling hypothesis with a lot of predictive and explanatory power. I suspect that current and future observations of female behavior in our society will only further cement the conclusions of this book. On a personal level, this book has heightened my awareness of the social dynamics that are designed to limit my potential in my interactions with women, and why those dynamics came into existence in the first place. 5 stars does no justice to this book, it is absolutely life changing.