Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

It's true! Men DO love bitches! I've seen a lot of other reviews saying this book had a lot of contradicting statements though good values. "I hope no woman is following this word for word..." "It's a good book to teach women values of independence and looking to take after herself, but to take this book seriously should be a crime." I wanted to see what all the hype was about, especially after the title caught my eye. All of the values in this book prove true. They are all principles and tips that lead to a woman having more respect for herself, more happiness, more contentedness with herself and no one else, and joy from an internal and self-fulfilled source. Essentially, by acting like you don't need a man in your life-- because it's true!-- and not tolerating disrespect, you maintain this goddess mindset and preserve your dignity and pristine temple of self. This makes men go WILD! One of my previous boyfriends came back after I exuded these principles. He wasn't treating me right. As the book mentions, he will keep treating you that way if you let him because he knows you'll stick around if you tolerate it. So I had enough. I mustered enough self-worth and respect to say, "We're no longer going to be together." Just saying it isn't enough. It didn't stop until I packed my bags and left. He kept begging me to come back. I was firm and said, "No. We're just going to have to be friends." My bitchy demeanor had been given notice. I remember it like a gem. I was in the parking lot of his apartment complex, under the stars of the night. I had this new attitude, the "new-and-improved bitch". I was about to say goodbye after game night with some friends, and he was impressed with my self-serviced attitude. His eyes were glowing with raging attraction. He came close to my ear, whispered, "I'm sorry for what I'm about to do," and maneuvered away from my ear to face me. He closed his eyes, and came close slowly, kissing me in the softest, most romantic tone I've ever felt. Of course, I wanted it, too, but I "held my heart 10 feet away" like the book advises you to do, and I kissed him back. It's sexy for both parties, let me tell you! Since then, he's treated me with new-found respect, and I can sense his fear of stepping out of line. He knows I won't be afraid to leave the second he disrespects me or treats me a way I don't like. We've recently started dating again. Note: I did this before I've read this book, so this goes to show that this read is NOT just a placebo effect! :) The principles in this book truly do work. It exposes the dead-stoppers of a relationship that leads to a man's reversal of attraction. I've found that a lot of these principles are true based on my own experiences. I am considered an attractive woman by today's standards. However, I have always had this "needy" and "desperate" vibe that instantly turns men off. The SECOND I get over-emotional, men seemed to stop DEAD in their tracks, unsure of what to do like a deer in the headlights, and then start bouncing away. I've had rounds of men whom it seemed to go in a pattern with. They would be kind in the beginning. Next, I would start submitting to them, and then they would become aggressive, controlling, and manipulative jerks! (Sound familiar, anyone?) Shelly Argov is right: men don't want a submissive woman. They want a bitch to keep them on their toes because it gives them excitement! They want to continuously pursue you. Do this by telling them what's what and how you expect to be treated! They want someone who has their own life and own hobbies and own interests and is content with herself! THAT is what a total package babe is, and men are allured to this. They'll be stepping into line with the rest of your life with careful provision not to bother the perfect thing that you've already crafted it to be. They are mystified by it and drawn to it, awed by it, curious beings they are, and want to co-exist and live by what magnificent beauty you are in their eyes. This right here garners IMMENSE admiration and respect by men, and it won't be long before he starts treating you like a highly prized possession. The best part? You won't even have to change your life. He'll have to enhance his to be in yours. There were a few parts in the book that I have to pick a bone with, though. There were a lot of contradicting statements that made it hard to follow what you should actually think. For example, there was a lot of oscillation between "Tell him what you want" and "Don't tell him what you want." The first argument imposes the idea that you "treat him like his friends" and "give it to him straight". The second argument gives the impression that "you will give him the powers to take advantage of you". This ended up being confusing, and I wish that the author had clarified more the context and situations that these principles would be applicable to. Another abhorrent detail to the story that I disagree with is the cruelty of women treating men. There were stories included of women leaving men to soak in the rain for hours on end alongside with deliberately ruining laundry by mixing reds and whites. These stories weren't included for show of what not to do; they were included for show of what TO do. I found these suggestions horrifying, and I couldn't understand how a woman could reach a level so steep. But maybe that's because I'm too nice. ;) Finally, I felt like there were moments where the book was not encouraging women to embrace their self. One classic example I'd like to bring up is the chapter on "talking too much". Excuse me? I am a very outgoing person, and I love to talk because I love to bring up ideas and discuss patterns and express myself in this way. I talk about interesting things, and if the guy doesn't like it, then I don't need him! It's good to listen to one another, and it's great to have some space. Personally, I can't stand when a guy talks too much. However, the author discusses talking as though it is a crime. She mentions that women "who are quiet present a mystery, and that mystery draws guys in". I am interested to see how this one plays out. I think a quiet girl may draw a guy in, but Argov argues that women need to remain quiet throughout the relationship. My thought is: What's the point in having a relationship that you can't talk to your partner with about your exciting ideas and thoughts? How is that even a relationship at that point? Why put on a front that expects men to take notice and say something? Isn't that putting the man above you? All in all, I think this was a wonderful read. I was laughing towards the end of the book because everything said is so true and applicable as I think back to my own life. It's exciting to see that many of the values I've gained in my own journey of self-respect are reflected in this book, and I no longer feel alone in traveling my own path. I feel empowered. The second-to-last attraction principle resonated with me greatly, and it helped clarify some lingering doubts I've had about blocking other people. I recommend this book to any woman who has ever felt like she is too nice or too bitchy-- this book helps both opposing ends of the spectrum meet in the middle to create one classy, sexy woman!

Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches should be required reading for every women who wants to be in a romantic relationship with a man. First, you must forgive the title. I am aware A LOT of women are turned off by the title of this book. In fact, when I suggested it to a friend she said to me "why would I want to learn how to be a bitch, when I am a lady?" Sherry Argov does not instruct on the ways and means one goes about becoming one of those obnoxious women who asks for WAY TOO MUCH while giving WAY TOO LITTLE. Oh NO! She teaches every woman how to go from being a mans doormat to his dream girl. Sherry Argov's Bitch is a strong woman who loves herself, who respects herself, who knows her worth, her value, and knows what she deserves and will not tolerate less in her life. I am proud to be a Sherry Argov Bitch! I first read Why Men Love Bitches as I was coming out of a bad relationship. Within the first 10 pages I knew I had found my relationship bible; and that is all it takes to understand why this book should be required reading: 10 pages. Within those first 10 pages I saw the woman I was being in my romantic relationships (the doormat) and the woman I truly am (the dream girl). Sadly, until I read this book, they were never one in the same...but now they are! This book is that EMPOWERING! After reading this book there is no going back to the old way of behaving, because once you read this book, you see yourself and you see men in a whole new light, because you get it. Sherry Argov literally lifts the veil, and epiphanies are had during every single chapter. I have been in a few relationships since I first read this book, and this book is my guide, my bible, my man manual if you will. And I have found the very end, where Sherry lists all her attraction principals to be especially helpful in a pinch. This book keeps me focused, it reminds me of who I am, and why I am behaving the way I am; it keeps me strong. Not only do I HIGHLY recommend this book to you, but I recommend it to every single one of my girlfriends every chance I get; none of whom (after they got past the title) ever found themselves disappointed. So, I feel confident in saying you will not be either! So PLEASE do yourself one of best favors of your life and read Sherry Argov's book Why Men Love Bitches, you will not regret it! PS: I have read both the first version and the updated version and I recommend the new version with the new material. Both are good, but the added material is well worth the investment.

Great book with amazing advice. All women should experience the knowledge in this book.

This book is absolutely amazing, such a great recommendation.

I picked this book up out of curiosity (the title definitely grabs you), but what surprised me most was how much of it is really about self-respect, boundaries, and confidence, not about being rude or mean. It’s written in a fun, straightforward style with plenty of humor, which makes it easy to get through. Some of the advice feels a bit dated in tone, but the core message, that you shouldn’t lose yourself or your standards in a relationship, still holds up today. I found myself laughing at a few anecdotes and nodding along at others. It’s the kind of book that’s part entertaining and part a pep talk, reminding you to value yourself first. Pro Tip: Don’t let the title throw you off, if you read it with an open mind and a sense of humor, you’ll find some surprisingly timeless insights.

Lorddd what can I say?! Just brought this book two days ago lol & i was always on the edge of my seat! I mean, in this book it’s like she knows so many people & stories and it just kept me intrigued the WHOLEEE entire time. kept me highly entertained for my 12 hour shifts! love it. it’s the truth

Came in a good condition

Did not finish it, just not for me

Very enjoyed to Read it. I think every girl should read it in their 20s :)

Skip some lesson, too toxic. But in general a great reads and even helped me train my new actually pet, no joke

Das Buch vermittelt wichtige Denkanstöße rund um Selbstwert, Grenzen setzen und Beziehungen. Der Schreibstil ist direkt und teilweise provokant, aber genau das macht die Botschaft klar und einprägsam. Man lernt, sich selbst nicht zu verlieren und die eigenen Bedürfnisse ernst zu nehmen. Sehr lesenswert für alle, die an sich und ihren Beziehungen arbeiten möchten.