How to Stop Being a Narcissist: Real and Proven Strategies to Change Narcissistic / Manipulative Behavior and Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships Paperback – February 6, 2023

This book was hard to read at times—not because it's poorly written, but because it held up a mirror I wasn’t ready to face. The author doesn’t sugarcoat narcissistic tendencies but also doesn’t shame you. It’s the first time I’ve seen something that offers hope and structure. I’ve started applying some of the strategies, and for the first time in years, my girlfriend told me I seemed more emotionally present.

This book is full of tools and techniques to use to better yourself. It’s a book that most of the world could stand to read because the issues it touches on aren’t just things only narcissistic people deal with. The everyday person struggles with defensiveness for example and this book highlights ways to combat it to form healthy habits.

I’ve read plenty of books on narcissism, but most are aimed at people dealing with narcissists, not those trying to change. This one finally spoke to me directly. The exercises are clear and don’t require a psychology degree to understand. I knocked off one star because some sections repeat themselves a bit, but overall, it’s incredibly useful.

I ordered this book because both of my parents are narcissists. I thought maybe I could read this book first, , highlight some things, and send it to them in an effort to show them that I don’t deserve the treatment they give me. I’ve tried talking to them before about their behavior, but they act like I’m making everything up. Anyway, this book has a lot of good information in it and really confirms the things that I’ve been thinking about my family for quite some time. My only complaint is that on the quiz Numbers 8,9 and 10 are all the same questions and answers. So now I don’t know if I can give them the book because then they would just complain about that. Because , well, you know how narcissists are! I’m pretty sure it’s just a typo, so I’m still gonna give it five stars ! Can’t wait to read more of you books in the future! Thank you!

This book helped me put a word to many of the manipulative strategies that I employ while engaging with other people. I'll use this information to forge healthier relationships with my loved ones, leading me out of narcissistic behavioral patterns.P.S. - This book is informative for everyone, and helpful for most. Many of us use these under-handed strategies as they have worked for us in the past, even if we aren't that narcissistic, and especially if we have had to navigate any kind of prolonged interaction with a narcissistic individual or individuals.

This book came in handy in my time if need. This is probably the best book for anyone wanting to make a change in their lifestyle. I recommend this book to everyone want to change it has helped so many.

It's unfortunate that the author speaks to overt narcissistic traits and doesn't also explain covert narcissism. Culturally, we associate narcissism with the more obvious, inflated, grandiose, arrogant type. Most people (including and especially victims of narcissistic abuse) won't recognize covert narcissism for what it is -- preventing them from uncovering resources for getting help (prolonging the devastating effects of things like manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse). Likewise, a covert narcissist who is curious about the consequences of their behaviors, or the feedback they're receiving from a loved one -- someone who is open to taking accountability and working toward change might end up dismissing the possibility when they don't identify with the overt traits listed at the beginning.Also, the book starts by saying that anyone who is wondering if they might be a narcissist probably isn't one. Why write a book that seeks to educate and support this population (for whom one of the symptoms is a lack of insight and accountability) and then suggest they probably don't have the issue simply because they're open to reading the book?Outside of this, I think the book is excellent. It's compassionate and approaches the subject with dignity and respect. People with NPD or NP traits are behaving as they are from a wounded place -- it's a maladaptive pattern of protection that hurts others (whereas their victims are often/also using maladaptive patterns of protection that hurt themselves). Both deserve compassion and both deserve treatment. I appreciate that this author has found a way to encourage accountability and change while also honoring the humanity and worthiness of the reader who struggles with these issues -- especially because there's already so much shame. (Including the shame of having hurt people they love.) This prevents many addicts from entering recovery, too.Anyone who recognizes these traits within themselves and is willing to do the work to heal and change has my utmost respect.

Recently my husband had told me that I had some narcissistic tendencies that I needed to work on. Without me even realizing what I was doing, I was hurting the love of my life. This book made me realize how much I was hurting others while trying to block it all out. I have made an appointment to meet with a therapist to further work on my mental health as the book suggests. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about narcissism.