Kiss Me Like You Mean It: Solomon's Crazy in Love How-To Manual

I was so happy with the book. Clean, no writing, highlighting or tears. Wonderful condition

After years of marriage, many couples find their relationship at a standstill. In the routine of everyday life, they begin to feel more like roommates than spouses. With jobs to work, errands to run, and kids to raise, who has the time or energy for passion and romance? And so, passion and romance dwindle, and in the process, emotional connections are severed. Is it any wonder then that there are so many divorces in today's society?In his book, "Kiss Me Like You Mean It: Solomon's Crazy in Love How-To Manual", Dr. David Clarke, an esteemed Christian marriage counselor, deals with passionless marriages in a very blunt, head-on fashion. To be honest, he stomps on a few toes, but I'm here to tell you that his counsel is wise and effective. My husband and I have read through many devotional books for couples. Most of them were okay, but they didn't really make a mark. We read the devotion, said a prayer and then went about our routines, vaguely aware of what we had read. Their messages, while pertinent, were rather shallow. Dr. Clarke's message is not. He digs down deep to uncover the hidden reasons for lack of passion and romance in a marriage. And while I don't agree with everything in the book, I have to admit that our marriage has improved greatly since reading it.The thing I really liked about the book was that Dr. Clarke went beyond the philosophy of "men and women are different, so deal with it". He explained how we are different and how to better understand one another. He has several chapters dealing with communication and how to get to know each other on a deeper level, even if you've been married for years. One chapter presents a "passion test", that I'm sorry to say my husband and I failed. We were perpetuating our "roommate experience" without even realizing what we were doing.After following Dr. Clarke's advice, we are now having devotions together daily, as well as communication times (no interruptions allowed). We have also committed to one date night each week, which can consist of staying in and watching a movie, playing putt-putt, window shopping, going to see dramas, etc. It doesn't matter what we do, but that we commit to the evening together. No phones. No computers. No cancellations. It's our night! We've also put into practice our new communication skills and passion principles. It's amazing the difference it has made in our relationship. We feel like newlyweds again!Allow me to stress again that I don't agree with everything Dr. Clarke says. His book deals mostly with passion and leaves out vital information about building a strong friendship and marital bond. That being said, I still think it is a good book for any married couple to read, whether you've been married for six months or sixty years. There was a lot of valuable information, and unlike many other "spiritual" books, "Kiss Me Like You Mean It" is written in a comical, conversational tone that is sure to have you laughing while you learn.

At some point, in every marriage, whether it's five years or ten years from now, a scary thing happens....your spouse is replaced by an alien.I've paraphrased the opening chapter, but you get the premise. Dr. Clarke asserts that God laid out a blue print for marriage, and this blue print can be found in the Song of Solomon. While keeping you laughing, he dispenses practical advice for every couple. At one point, my husband even said, "I don't do that..do I? DO I?". I've read books that said the purpose of marriage is only for the glory of God, and while I believe that whole-heartedly, Dr. Clarke also reminds us that it doesn't have to be a passionless, boring affair. If God did not promote fun and passion in marriage, why is there an entire book in the Bible about it? This book is a breath of fresh air. My husband finished the book, and he is not an avid reader to say the least.This book would have received a 5 star ranking except for a couple of key points: One, this book is not for every marriage. It will only help and be relevant if both partners are willing to take his advice. Some marriages are beyond that. But if you are both willing to make a serious effort, pick this book up right now! Secondly, a lot of the advice is aimed straight at the husbands. There's plenty to the wives as well, but it seemed a little one-sided at times (yes, I'm taking up for the men!)Overall, I LOVED this book. It may not be for everyone, but it was exactly what my husband and I needed. The laughing you do through the book makes the medicine easier to swallow!

Wish I had read this book before, or even while, I was married. Anyone in a serious, committed relation could benefit from 'Kiss ME Like You Mean It'.

Very clean quality book

I found this book to be written in an engaging and 'light' sort of style, despite the sometimes-heavy subject. Additionally, I was refreshed to find that he gives equal directives to both husband and wife. Some books I have read seem to put all the blame/responsibility on the husband.I did think that he short-changes the interpretation of Song of Solomon as 'only a romance book' and not additionally as a prophetic and allegorical look at Christ's love for the Church. I don't think it has to be one or the other, but find it even richer as I see the prophetic there as well. He didn't belabor the point, and I was easily able to look beyond that slight disagreement I had.Overall, a great book. I'm looking forward to reading some other titles by this author.

I have just completed this book. Dr Clarke has written the book with a fair amount of light hearted humour - it's an easy read, and he gives lots of very practical advice (he doesn't try to skirt any issues.) I had never interpreted the Song of Solomon as practically as this, and knowing Solomon had so many wives and concubines was a bit of a detractor to his being portrayed as the almost-perfect husband/lover, but that's not Dr Clarke's fault. As far as the practical advice is concerned, I think Dr Clarke plays it safe by being very understanding of the woman/ wife's point of view; a bit hard on the men, I think; they come across as insensitive clods at times! And I thought he was sometimes in danger of making women feel deserving and entitled to so much more from their men, which might not be very helpful, as we're inclined to feel sorry for ourselves anyway! However,altogether it was a good, practical read and I'm glad I read it! And I would like my husband to read it too.

Down to earth book. The writer clearly shows how God knew what He was doibg when He created men and women.I have read a nubmer of marriage books but this one seems to be the most honest, clear and eye-opening books of all.As a Christian, it is jaw-dropping but I feel certain that you do not need to be a Christian to read it. Give it a go, if it seems to make sense to you, you identify with much that is written and you feel hopeful about the hope offered, then how can you lose out!

I love this book. It's funny but only as you can identify tidy with the situations. Fantastically written with sensitivity and insight. Very thought provoking and practical.

Great lighthearted read - would recommend it to any married couple - before and during their marriage. Before and during the problems :)Easy to read and contains some useful material.

Very insightful. No holding back. Some suggestions seem a bit out there or hard to achieve but its worth it for a great marriage.